Clear your conscience with these easy tips

Most of us feel guilty because of the million little things we think we should be doing every day. That creates unnecessary stress, which threatens our mental and physical health. Here's how to worry a little less.

• For instance, if you're feeling guilty because you went shopping on Saturday instead of going to see a relative in hospital, take time out of your schedule for a midweek visit.
• Many times, the things we feel guilty about are relatively easy to put right.

• Recognize that a feeling of guilt doesn't always mean that what you did was wrong.
• For instance, if you're feeling guilty because you decided it was more important to relax with a book than to have coffee with your always-in-a-crisis friend, that means you're learning to set limits and take time for yourself. In cases like this, have the confidence to admit that you made the right choice.

• When you feel guilty about something, write it down. Write the time, the day, and why you feel guilty.
• Go back and reread this journal every couple of weeks to find the trends in your guilt. This will help you deal better with its underlying roots.

• Recall all the healthy benefits of some of the most guilt-inducing foods.
• For instance, dark chocolate is full of heart-healthy antioxidants. Red wine has fabulous benefits for your heart, cholesterol and other health markers. A handful of mixed nuts will give you a healthy dose of monounsaturated fat and vitamin E. A serving of popcorn supplies a good portion of fibre.
• Just remember: moderation in all things.

• Most of us are highly critical of ourselves, without acknowledging the good, the funny, the right choices, and the successes.
• Guilt becomes less of an issue when we're happy and secure in who we are.
• Keep this list in your bag, in your pocket or on your computer.
• Look at it whenever you're feeling guilty about what you should or should not have done.

• Nothing more. So perhaps you weren't the kind of mother who got down on the floor to play with her children, but you were the kind of mother who took her children on outings to museums and parks.
• Maybe you aren't the kind of person to surprise your partner with romantic gestures and gifts, but you do provide a perpetually open ear, helping hand and unconditional support.
• Don't knock yourself down if you are trying your best.